Friday, May 4

Grrr... Love Triangle...

Okay, here is my problem with love triangles.

... you know, since you asked...  :)

When you love two people, you don't love either of them enough. Love triangles run rampant in the YA market, but lately they have squirmed their way into adult romance as well--and my question is why? Why is that so desirable? I guess I can see why having two men fight over you would be hot, and make you feel wanted and all, but to flip-flop and not know who to chose makes no sense to me. If you are seeing guy one, and guy two comes along, there should be no doubt at all that you are taken unless you give guy two that doubt. And if you give him that doubt, then you don't want guy one as much as you may lead us to believe.

In any romance I read--YA or otherwise--I want the two MCs to love each other totally and completely. When you have a triangle, you kill that, because no matter who ends up together, now there will always be doubt--and doubt is not romantic.

Not to mention that this whole idea is a TOTAL double standard. Somehow it's become romantic for a woman to have two guys fawning over her, while she has to "follow her heart", and "make the impossible decision", blah, blah, blah. Yet a guy debating between two women is a dog. Think about it, if you best friend/sister/etc. told you that she was in love with a guy and that he loved her too, but he also loved another girl and he was trying to decide between them, what would you tell her? Would you say, "Oh, well you just keep waiting and I'll have my fingers crossed for you." Hell no. You'd say, "Kick him to the curb, and go find a man who will love you, and only you!"


Needless to say there will never be a triangle in anything that I will ever write.

You? Am I alone here? I'm thinking I am, but I'd love to hear your two cents.


  1. I will never write a triangle either. Sure, maybe two guys interested in her, or vice-versa, but the MC's interests are clear and never waver. I'm not that kind of girl, and I don't want to read about them, either. Indecision is...unattractive to me.

  2. I'm not a fan of love triangles either for probably the same reason I don't like unrequited love. I get having crushes but to be in love LOVE, I feel like a person should have enough respect for themselves to know they deserve to be loved fully and not in half measures.

  3. Yes! I am also fine with a character having more than one person interested in her/him, but not when there is waffling involved. :)

  4. Nicole - I agree, especially since you always come to care about both of the characters who are vying for the one persons love. You don't want to see either of them hurt or alone, but that is basically the only option. Unless of course there is some lame and unbelievable 'fix-it-all' solution that ends up cheapening the whole thing. *cough*cough*Breaking Dawn*cough*cough*

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    2. whoops! Damn typos... What I meant to say was: "It wasn't you. I was just in love with an egg in your ovary." >_<

    3. HAHA!!! Love that! Seriously though, how do you have that conversation with your wife?! "Yeah, I wanted to bang your mom back in the day, that's cool, right?" And I'm sorry, but the idea of the kid in general just paints the picture of little sparkly sperm with fangs!

  5. I love a love triangle that isn't REALLY a love triangle. There's the "couple" and the slightly dangerous guy on the side who catches her eye but she never actually "goes there".

    Indecisiveness drives me BATTY! I don't like those stories where someone is "torn" -- grow up. Pick the good guy already. Sure he's a dork, but he'll end up starting Apple and be a billionaire so...


  6. I'm with you there. SO long as the first party puts her(or his) foot down, then a little romantic tension is great. The the first party has to be sure of what they want, not actively choosing.