Sunday, August 19

Respect your youngers...

Something has been bothering me for a while and I am finally annoyed enough to talk to you all about it.

I have taken the following quotes from actual blog posts, book reviews (on both Goodreads and Amazon) and interviews.

“What chance do [young girls] have at knowing what a healthy relationship is, when everything they read labels obsession and mental abuse as ‘love’.”
“… girls are being taught that being weak and subservient will lead to unending love…”
 “…does nothing but confuse teenage girls, who have a heard enough time sorting out relationships as it is.”
“Now, all these young women will think that it’s okay to let a man manipulate and control them as long as he uses the word ‘love’.”
“’Disobey your parents, skip school, laugh at any authority, but as long as you are doing it for love, it is okay.’ This is the message that teens get from [book] and all the rest like it.”
“…the popularity of books like this only proves that teens today have no appreciation of true literature.”

You've all heard this stuff before, right? Well guess what?

Teenage girls are not stupid!

I am SICK of all teens being grouped together under the umbrella of naïve, mindless, drones, who will do anything that a show, or celebrity, or book tells them! There are hoards of intelligent, confident, well-adjusted young women out there who are anything but weak and mindless.

Do some girls get obsessed over books that present unhealthy relations ships? Yes, of course. But that doesn't not mean that they actually think that is the way a real relationship should be! It’s fantasy! They are reading it because they enjoy it. And don’t you DARE tell me that it they shouldn’t enjoy something that to some is only considered mindless garbage—not when the GROWN WOMEN in this country have made RIDICULOUS CRAP shows like ‘Toddler’s In Tiaras’ and ‘Dance Moms’ some of the highest rated shows on TV.

“Oh, but it’s okay for me, I’m an adult. I know it’s ridiculous, but young girls don’t realize. They are too impressionable, just look how obsessed they get…”

Give. Me. A. Break.

Everyone gets obsessive about something, it’s human nature. We see something we really like, and for a time, we want as much of it as we can get. Since when is that the sign of a weak mind?! Moreover, since when does obsessing with something automatically mean the obsessed person believes that the thing is real? There are tons of people who flock to Sci-Fi conventions every year, dressed as robots, and monsters, and their favorite characters—does that mean that they all believe all that stuff is real? Sure, a few do, but the vast majority know it’s a fantasy, and do it for fun.

The other thing that kills me is that not long ago, everyone was whining about the fact that, with modern technology, kids didn’t read anymore. Well, now kids read more than adults, but it seems that still isn’t good enough. “Yes, we want you to read, but only what we think you should read.”


Here is the fact of the matter folks, if a teen girl believes that it’s okay to be mistreated and dominated by a man, and doesn’t know how to recognize and unhealthy relationship, then that is the case because no one has taught her otherwise—and sadly, she would be that way with or without YA books.

Now, I am not saying that there aren’t girls out there who are easily lead and influenced by others, as we all know there are. However, thanks to a few crazy fan girls, as well as shows like ‘My Super Sweet 16’, and the like, the world seems to think that if you are female and between the ages of 12 and 18, you have no choice but to be a weak-minded twit.

Do these people realize that teens today are doing harder work in high school than most of us did in college?! Do they realize that the average IQ of a girl between the ages of 14 and 17 is, on average, 2 – 5 points higher than the average IQ of a woman between 34 – 37?

Thant’s right folks, they are smarter than us.

Yes, they make bad decisions from time to time, but we all do. They are not all stupid, or shallow, or weak, and most of them have to put up with more in a day than most adults do in a week. If you really want to help young girls grow into smart, confident women, then how about giving them the respect they deserve.


  1. Amen! Something that upsets me is how anytime teenage girls love something, that thing is then perceived to be inferior or bad as though the opinion and tastes of teenage girls are the worst of any. I wish people would give young girls more credit.

  2. Ugh, I am so tired of those Teen Mom shows trying to glorify teenage pregnancy. I think it's a much worse example than reading about vampires. Look, get pregnant and you'll get famous. HOWEVER, I don't think girls who are disinclined to have babies in HS will have their mind changed by a tv show, or a book. Part of reading about (or being presented with) different scenarios is contemplating and figuring out for yourself.

    Teens will make mistakes. They're TEENS. It's a part of growing up and learning and figuring out what kind of life/adult you want to be. Actually, it's a part of being human. We all make mistakes and hopefully grow from them.

    Great post topic. Yay, teens. I love them. They're funny, get sarcasm, and I agree most are smarter than some adults I've met, lol.

  3. AE Rought - Preach! ;)

    Nicole - I hate that too! Yet, boys and guys can watch shows like Jack-Ass, and all they get is a 'boys will be boys'?!? Teen girls have better taste than half the adults I know...

    Michelle - Yes! I had actually forgotten about the teen mom shows. And honestly that is part of the problem--people see that show and automatically think that is what every teen girl is like! Maddening!

  4. Carly of Kissing CoversAugust 23, 2012 at 8:55 AM

    As a teenager who also reviews books, I heartily agree! I am 19 now, but was 15 when I started doing reviews, and I also find that my reviews are not taken as seriously because of my age. This makes no rational sense to me considering that I only review YA books. Am I not the target audience? So then how can people tell me that I am too young to 'fairly' review them?

    Drives me insane!

    Thank you for the vote of confidence! (and lovely blog!)

  5. I never thought of it this way before but you are absolutely RIGHT! We read all kinds of "unhealthy" crap when we were younger but it didn't mean it scarred us for life. In fact, we learned a lot about what NOT to do from reading as teenagers. I liked the facts you provided about IQ and increased reading. We need to respect our "youngers" hee hee.

  6. This is a really fresh perspective that I don't hear often. I have to admit that when I was a lunchlady (okay, that's the first admission - I was a lunchlady, haha) and the 4th & 5th grade girls were reading the Twilight books, I didn't like it, but you know what? It turned out to be a good opportunity for discussion at recess when I got them to see how absolutely stupid it was for a girl - or guy - to want to shut themselves off from life just because someone broke up with them.

    And as far as teenagers being given more credit - I live with a 16 year old girl & 14 year old boy, and they OFTEN prove themselves more sensible than their 40+ year old mom.


  7. ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥THIS POST♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

    No doubt the same folks who were saying this, "...girls are being taught that being weak and subservient will lead to unending love…” Have Fifty Shades on their nightstand (ARG. You know how I feel about this book, pal). Does that mean every minivan driving soccer mom is hoping to get anal beads shoved up her wazoo?! I THINK NOT!!

    1. OH MY LORD!!! That is the most awesome comment I have ever gotten!!!

      You are awesome babe!(Not to mention absolutely right!) Rock on! =D